Is chatting with an office friend wrong for married women?

About a month ago, an office friend contacted me. He happens to be an office friend from three month ago. I have been married almost 4 years with kid. I don't have any feels for this man however, I do like the way he makes me feel when I talk and chat with him. I cannot be very open with him and talk to him about anything. Things my husband does not even like to talk to me about. I am there for him and he is there for me. He is married as well. Is this wrong? I told my husband that I chat with him on-line & on the phone. I also have met this man for lunch. I don't want anything else from this relationship with my friend. But for some reason I feel bad not telling my husband the truth. So why am I doing it?

Best answer

1.It's extremely important to have a strong relationship with you're husband and to tell each other everything...or almost everything..just no important secrets. If you're not ok when talks to this friend and eats out with him all the time you need to tell him. Make sure that it's strictly just a friend relationship between them. Has he been acting different? Do you think you can trust him after 4 years? You need to consider these things. Also..It's wrong that you're talking to your office friend AS LONG AS..you don't develop a love relationship with him...which you said, you haven't YET. Furthermore, that was 3 month ago that you dated him so that should really be a problem. Yes, you like when you talk to him & you talk about many things...& that is wrong. It couldn't just sounds like a good friend that you are not comfortable with...& there wrong with that! =)

2. Going thru the EXACT thing myself, hate him and the co-worker's relationship, cut all ties with office friend because of my "moral compass" .If your emotionally cheating.. you're doing something wrong! If your finding things in him; that you wish you had in your husband.. You are doing something wrong!!

3. You should tell your office friend that you are not going to stand for this kind of behavior. You need to tell your office friend exactly how you feel and tell him that this is something that needs to be fixed because it is taking a toll on your marriage.Men who cheat are likely to hide it and lie about it. I bet if you tell him if this behavior does not stop then stop talking .

4. In a marriage your husband is your best friend, you should be able to confide in each other about anything and everything. Lying by omission is a crack in your foundation. I suggest you learn how to be Completely Honest as well as your husband.

5. Flirting his behavior, so I think, that behavior would be crossing the line.Touching your hand, they are intentional, and I would say he is getting something out of it.I would say if you keep letting him do this stuff, he will be getting more than just something out of it. Before this causes more problems then questions, I suggest you end it. ASAP.

6. I don't think flirting he should be flirting with any other women. If he has a wife with kid, he shouldn't be flirting with other people. The woman shouldn't be allowing him to touch her or flirt with her either if she knows that he is with another woman, especially if she is married too.

7.I think it is wrong. Accidentally brushing against somebody is one thing, but on purpose many times, is no accident.

Happily married but suddenly attracted to another man!?!?

I've been married for almost 2 years. I love my husband very, very much, but recently I've been noticing a little chemistry between me and my new office friend. Little glances, smiles, little "accidental" touches. To be perfectly honest, I'm really enjoying the extra attention I'm getting from this guy. Don't get me wrong, my husband is a wonderful man who treats me very well, but I also an extreme tired. when he do I either sleeping or almost sleeping. We have made love in over a week.

I don't want to cheat on my husband but it's really hard to resist what's been going on with the office friend. I don't know...I guess I just need someone to talk me out of it. I find myself thinking about this guy all the time and I can't stop. Help! Before I do something stupid!

Best Answer

1. Satisfy your needs with husband. Think of doing something special with him. Plan it out. Surprise him. Be romantic towards him to get the sparks flying. Have sex for 5 straight days. F%&^% the brains out of him so that you can get your mind off the other dude.

2. You need to tell your husband that you need more time with him. Do not do something that you are going to regret. You need to avoid being around the office friend. When he enters your mind you need to think of something else. You need to do something other than sit and think of him. You do not say if you have kids or a job. If you don't have a job get one to keep yourself busy.

3. Don't do it!!!

If you love your husband and want to avoid making a big mistake, then you need to avoid your office friend. Go ahead and rid yourself of the temptation. Second and most importantly, talk to your husband about spending a little more time together.

4. No one can "talk you out of it" when you are the only one who can make the decision. You are attracted to him because he is showing you some attention - which you are not getting from hubby. He is busy earning a living. You need to talk to your husband about what you are not getting but need. If that does not work you need to avoid the office friend (go to work - volunteer, etc) or you will end up screwing the guy and regretting it. If you want to fool around (is he married???) then get a divorce and then do whatever you want.

5. You already cheated and don’t know it yet. In your head you have already slept with this man numerous times, or you have at least had some sexual fantasy about the two of you. Because of this, it will drive you to go to the next level. Because you live next to each other, will intensive your fantasy and turn it into reality.

6. Husband isn't fulfilling his compassionate role with you but the stank office friend who probably doesn't work as hard is fulfilling the role, figures.

If you LOVE your husband so VERY VERY much then you'd do what a LOVING wife would do and work out your sexual urges with HIM. Tell him to get a damn vacation, work out some lunch sex appointments, or respect your man is a hard working man and cater him a little for some good relax sex. If he comes home make his behind get in a hot bath and yawl shower or bathe together, or let him take a nap, wake his behind up and take it. I mean unless he's working 12-15 hour days he can't be tired ALL the time, and if he is he can still relax, man will DIE if he thinks he can work 24/7 with no social interaction or LIFE at all.

So talk to him, let him know you need love and affection, and get rid of the home wrecker. He probably knows he's getting you wet, so of course like any typical asshole looking for a nut he's goanna work on it. If you can't work it with your man and you just REALLY want your office friend's thing then you really didn't have that devoted love for your husband, just the convenience of a perceived stable relationship and should consider leaving before you go on cheating....stay away from the statistic. PLEASE.

7. You might think you need help from us, but honestly only you can make this decision. You already know it's wrong. I am sure your husband is working so hard to help you all have a better life. He, perhaps, during this time could use a little prompting from you. He shouldn't have to be the one to initiate everything with you. The excitement you get when flirting with this office friend can be a good thing if you use it to your advantage and give your hubby the energy you get. From the office friends looks n stuff. Do those little things for you husband that tell him everyday how much you care and appreciate him for all he does? Make date night with him once a week, bi-weekly or monthly thing depending on your schedules. Leave a love note in his car before he goes to work. Cook his favorite dinner. Let him sleep in on his days off rub his back while he is going to sleep, whisper sweet nothing in his ear. there are far to many things for you to do.

Be grateful for the simple fact you have a hard working man who loves you. Now show him how very much you love him too.