Is chatting with an office friend wrong for married women?

About a month ago, an office friend contacted me. He happens to be an office friend from three month ago. I have been married almost 4 years with kid. I don't have any feels for this man however, I do like the way he makes me feel when I talk and chat with him. I cannot be very open with him and talk to him about anything. Things my husband does not even like to talk to me about. I am there for him and he is there for me. He is married as well. Is this wrong? I told my husband that I chat with him on-line & on the phone. I also have met this man for lunch. I don't want anything else from this relationship with my friend. But for some reason I feel bad not telling my husband the truth. So why am I doing it?

Best answer

1.It's extremely important to have a strong relationship with you're husband and to tell each other everything...or almost everything..just no important secrets. If you're not ok when talks to this friend and eats out with him all the time you need to tell him. Make sure that it's strictly just a friend relationship between them. Has he been acting different? Do you think you can trust him after 4 years? You need to consider these things. Also..It's wrong that you're talking to your office friend AS LONG AS..you don't develop a love relationship with him...which you said, you haven't YET. Furthermore, that was 3 month ago that you dated him so that should really be a problem. Yes, you like when you talk to him & you talk about many things...& that is wrong. It couldn't just sounds like a good friend that you are not comfortable with...& there wrong with that! =)

2. Going thru the EXACT thing myself, hate him and the co-worker's relationship, cut all ties with office friend because of my "moral compass" .If your emotionally cheating.. you're doing something wrong! If your finding things in him; that you wish you had in your husband.. You are doing something wrong!!

3. You should tell your office friend that you are not going to stand for this kind of behavior. You need to tell your office friend exactly how you feel and tell him that this is something that needs to be fixed because it is taking a toll on your marriage.Men who cheat are likely to hide it and lie about it. I bet if you tell him if this behavior does not stop then stop talking .

4. In a marriage your husband is your best friend, you should be able to confide in each other about anything and everything. Lying by omission is a crack in your foundation. I suggest you learn how to be Completely Honest as well as your husband.

5. Flirting his behavior, so I think, that behavior would be crossing the line.Touching your hand, they are intentional, and I would say he is getting something out of it.I would say if you keep letting him do this stuff, he will be getting more than just something out of it. Before this causes more problems then questions, I suggest you end it. ASAP.

6. I don't think flirting he should be flirting with any other women. If he has a wife with kid, he shouldn't be flirting with other people. The woman shouldn't be allowing him to touch her or flirt with her either if she knows that he is with another woman, especially if she is married too.

7.I think it is wrong. Accidentally brushing against somebody is one thing, but on purpose many times, is no accident.